Life lessons from my mom
March is National Women’s History Month and so I thought it was due time to put fingers to keyboard and share a little bit about the most influential woman in my life, my mom. On a day to day basis I think about her at least three times a day. I think about what she would tell me about my outfit, because she always has something colorful to say. I think about how grateful I should be for being able to go and visit her at moment’s notice as we both live in the same state but somehow, I only manage to visit every other week. When I think about my failures I can also always count on my mom’s wisdom to bring me back to reality and see that life is not as bad as I am making it out to be, especially since there is always great food to eat – i.e. Kraft mac and cheese or chiles rellenos.
A few more lessons from my mom:
If you get a C+, you are above average.
As much as I want to an A student, I’ve always been more of an mostly A’s, some B’s and an occasional C student. Those occasional C’s really hit me hard. I remember crying uncontrollably over getting a C+ in a biology class. In hind sight, I think my reaction was incredibly petty. My mom on the other hand, was so sweet and supportive. She held my hand – her signature move – and said, “My love, this class does not define you. On the up side, it does prove that you’re above average.” I did not laugh at the time, but thinking back, I can’t help but smile.
Being fashionable is relative.
In my teens I went through a phase where I wanted to look like a chola, then in my early 20s I went through a phase where I wanted to look like I lived in the 50’s. Through it all, she was supportive. She loved a lot of what I wore, but whenever I went overboard she would call me out. She appreciated my fashion choices as fashion is relative. If you wear it with confidence, it is sure to suit you.
It’s okay if you have a messy house.
Growing up, our home was rarely clean. Both mom and dad worked all day and the only time our home would see the broom would be during the weekend. It was an all hands on deck deal. It was not my favorite thing to do, but given that she was rarely hard on us about the state of the house we all pitched in.
Now that I’ve grown up, I realize that our home must have been such a mess as it got closer to the weekend. We, as kids, rarely picked up after ourselves and made great use of all the toys we had so I can just imagine how frustrating it must have been for my mom. She now tells me that she did not mind very much as it was symbolic of a happy family. I appreciate that very much, as it means we got away with a lot, but I do think having a messy home stressed her out a bit at times.
It’s okay if you aren’t currently fulfilled with your day job, just be grateful for it and work towards the job you want.
Most of my life, I have held jobs that pay the bills and so has my mom. While I am grateful that I can pay my bills, I do get down at times that I do not feel utterly fulfilled. If I am having an especially hard time, I’ll talk to her and of course she’ll make me feel better and advise to continue to be grateful for my day job. It is because of it that I can pursue my life’s ambition and that is awesome. I love her so much for giving me such reality checks as I desperately need them at times.
Just let it out…you’ll feel better for it.
Need I say more?
What are some lessons you’ve learned from an influential lady in your life?